Marc has only been gone four days, but Marielle has definitely started missing her daddy. Yesterday afternoon she told me that she “didn’t understand how long daddy was going to be gone.” Before bed she told me that she missed her dad and was sad that he wasn’t helping to tuck her in. This morning Marielle begged me not to go to work. When I told her that I had to go she pleaded for me to take her with me. When I told her I couldn’t take her she just started crying and yelling “mommy please.” I was only able to leave by letting her Auntie Sarah hold her back while I left and locked the door behind me.
I feel bad that Marc’s short trip has been so hard for her. I am sure that she is at this moment having fun playing in the sun and will soon adjust to Marc’s temporary absence. However, I can’t help but feel sad that my little girl, who has no real concept of time, doesn’t realize that Marc will be back in no time. I am also a bit anxious about the fact that when he comes back he is going to leave a couple of weeks later for another several week trip.
For the time being, I made a calendar that we can use to track how many days it will be until Marc comes home. I’ll have Marielle and Harper put stickers on each day that passes and I’m sure that with a little more cuddles and time Marielle will be just fine.
6 years ago
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Its hard on the kiddos. When PC was gone all the time Nathan handled it ok because he was so used to it. But then he was home for a long time (long time being 4 months) and when he was gone for the month of Feb Nathan had a really hard time with it.
Even just being here in the states we were away from PC for 3 weeks-- which in military time is nothing but he had a hard time with it- even with all the activity and people.
I know Marc isn't usually gone for extended periods like this so I'm sure the kiddos feel totally out of their element. I wish I had some profound advice....I just try and do my best to not bring it up/dwell on their absence and continue on 'business as usual'- but I know thats not always easy when the kids seem to focus on it.
Hang in there. We'll be there soon with playmates for her!!
I'm with Lisa - it's never easy! Wyatt loves paper chains for counting down how many sleeps are left until daddy comes home (we don't do this until it's a manageable number) and I'm a fan of trying new activities every so often. Sometimes when he's really missing daddy, we color a picture to save for him or will write down a list of things we want to tell him about the next time we talk.
The first week or so is the hardest, I think. It's hard on you, too! So hang in there as you all adjust. Good luck :)
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